Weddings

The Bride Wore a Dress Designed by Her Brother-in-Law to Her Wedding at Roxbury Farm

“It was not a setup,” insists Julia Arnhold, a senior strategist at Gin Lane, of the first time she met Lane Gerson, the cofounder of men’s footwear brand Jack Erwin. The two started talking at a mutual friend’s birthday dinner. “We were not off to the races from the start,” admits Julia. “Lane took me to dinner once a week for months before there was any sign of progress.”
  • After we got engaged we wrote letters to our guests to save the date for our wedding weekend. We worked with the...
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    After we got engaged, we wrote letters to our guests to save the date for our wedding weekend. We worked with the brilliant Stephanie Fishwick, who was able to make each communication with our friends and family feel incredibly personal.

  • Vintage bird stamps on our invitations.
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    Vintage bird stamps on our invitations.

  • The entrance to dinner Friday night at Thistledown Farm the home of my brother Paul Arnhold and his husband Wes Gordon.
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    The entrance to dinner Friday night at Thistledown Farm, the home of my brother, Paul Arnhold, and his husband, Wes Gordon.

  • A floral arrangement by Saipua.
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    A floral arrangement by Saipua.

  • A closeup of Bear a Thoroughbred that lives at Thistledown Farm. Paul and Wes opened up the barns and everyone was able...
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    A close-up of Bear, a thoroughbred that lives at Thistledown Farm. Paul and Wes opened up the barns and everyone was able to wander around and meet the animals.

  • Our caterer Olivier Cheng incorporated local ingredients throughout the weekend. He picked apples from our orchard to...
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    Our caterer, Olivier Cheng, incorporated local ingredients throughout the weekend. He picked apples from our orchard to create a harvest experience on the back of the farm’s pickup truck with a variety of ciders and dried fruits.

  • Walking into dinner.
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    Walking into dinner.

  • Ali Behar and Brett Copell walking into dinner. Ali is carrying a cowbell with her name on it. We thought it would be...
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    Ali Behar and Brett Copell walking into the welcome dinner. Ali is carrying a cowbell with her name on it. We thought it would be fun to use bells instead of escort cards, and everyone ended up ringing them during the speeches.

  • Lisa Vorce our incredible and fearless wedding planner put together a warm casual and welcoming environment the perfect...
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    Lisa Vorce, our incredible and fearless wedding planner, put together a warm, casual, and welcoming environment—the perfect kickoff to the entire weekend.

  • The placemats at dinner.
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    The place mats at dinner.

  • The table setting piles of apples from the farm and white dahlias.
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    The table setting: piles of apples from the farm and white dahlias.

  • Carolyna De Laurentiis Alex Goldberger and Wes Gordon in stitches during speeches.
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    Carolyna De Laurentiis, Alex Goldberger, and Wes in stitches during the speeches.

  • Sharing a quiet moment together at the end of the night. We were surprised by the hysterical installation of lifelike...
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    Sharing a quiet moment together at the end of the night. We were surprised by the hysterical installation of lifelike cow sculptures, which you can see in the background.

  • The entrance to my parents house on our wedding day.
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    The entrance to my parents’ house on our wedding day.

  • Tiffany Fodor did my hair and Debie Kim did my makeup. Im pretty scared of hair and makeup and they made me feel exactly...
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    Tiffany Fodor did my hair and Debie Kim did my makeup. I’m pretty scared of hair and makeup and they made me feel exactly like myself.

  • I worked with the team at Manolo Blahnik to design these custom shoes made from the satin of my wedding dress. They...
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    I worked with the team at Manolo Blahnik to design these custom shoes made from the satin of my wedding dress. They lined the insides in blue.

  • Wes Gordon my brotherinlaw was with me the entire day of the wedding. Here he is helping me into my dress. The black...
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    Wes, my brother-in-law, was with me the entire day of the wedding. Here he is helping me into my dress. The black velvet straps made the dress so special.

  • I could see the ceremony setup from my bedroom window. Here I am spying.
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    I could see the ceremony setup from my bedroom window. Here I am, spying.

  • My parents and brother surprised me with these 1920s Art Deco natural pearl and diamond earrings by Cartier for my birthday.
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    My parents and brother surprised me with these 1920s Art Deco natural pearl and diamond earrings by Cartier for my birthday.

  • Walking out of the house to see my friends and family.
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    Walking out of the house to see my friends and family.

  • My best friends arrived early to take some photos preceremony.
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    My best friends arrived early to take some photos pre-ceremony.

  • Our family Wes Paul John and Jody Arnhold me Lane Suzanne and Ervin Gerson Lindsay Gerson and Jonathan Rubin. Our...
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    Our family: Wes, Paul, John and Jody Arnhold, me, Lane, Suzanne and Ervin Gerson, Lindsay Gerson, and Jonathan Rubin. Our siblings, Paul and Lindsay, officiated the wedding ceremony.

  • Wes and Paul.
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    Wes and Paul.

  • Just married
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    Just married!

  • Our friends and family tossed leaves during the recessional.
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    Our friends and family tossed leaves during the recessional.

  • So many leaves got stuck in my veil.
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    So many leaves got stuck in my veil.

  • Making our way to cocktails after the ceremony.
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    Making our way to cocktails after the ceremony.

  • The dinner tables on Saturday night. We wanted the space to feel clean warm and inviting.
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    The dinner tables on Saturday night. We wanted the space to feel clean, warm, and inviting.

  • Friends took photos in the apple orchard during cocktails Paul Arnhold Alison Chemla Tracy Dubb Jamie Mizrahi Selby...
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    Friends took photos in the apple orchard during cocktails: Paul, Alison Chemla, Tracy Dubb, Jamie Mizrahi, Selby Drummond, and Molly Howard.

  • Charming bud vases and honeycolored taper candles lined the tables.
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    Charming bud vases and honey-color taper candles lined the tables.

  • The sun setting on cocktail hour.
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    The sun setting on cocktail hour.

  • After cocktails we made our way to dinner.
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    After cocktails, we made our way to dinner.

  • Our friends Molly McQueen and Andy Favr eau snapping pictures as they entered the dinner tent.
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    Our friends Molly McQueen and Andy Favreau snapping pictures as they entered the dinner tent.

  • The room was glowing
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    The room was glowing!

  • Disco balls above the dance floor.
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    Disco balls above the dance floor.

  • Friends and family finding their seats.
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    Friends and family finding their seats.

  • Walking in together. It was a surreal moment.
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    Walking in together. It was a surreal moment.

  • We smiled from eartoear the entire night.
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    We smiled from ear to ear the entire night.

  • My 96year old grandfather Henry Arnhold giving a toast.
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    My 96-year-old grandfather, Henry Arnhold, giving a toast.

  • Disco balls above the dance floor.
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    Carissa Waechter, of Carissa’s Breads in East Hampton, made us our wedding cakes. There were 14 of them, which is a lucky number in our family. Each was beautiful and delicious.

  • Lane sharing a dance with his mom to Madonnas 4 Minutes
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    Lane sharing a dance with his mom to Madonna’s “4 Minutes.”

  • DJ Jesse Marco kept everyone dancing all night with a hiphop marathon.
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    DJ Jesse Marco kept everyone dancing all night with a hip-hop marathon.

  • Jamie Mizrahi and Steven Dubb on the dance floor.
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    Jamie Mizrahi and Steven Dubb on the dance floor.

  • Someone gave us a piece of advice before the wedding step away during the party and enjoy your wedding cake. So we did.
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    Someone gave us a piece of advice before the wedding: Step away during the party and enjoy your wedding cake. So we did.

  • The end of the night
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    The end of the night!